tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post9135843959022941259..comments2024-03-29T00:15:14.289-07:00Comments on Jenny Matlock: Is this really about me?Jennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12462124067637610359noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-11571827242972342272010-09-04T17:24:19.980-07:002010-09-04T17:24:19.980-07:00They are unsensitive! sandieThey are unsensitive! sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-46832513179397701852010-09-02T03:15:21.526-07:002010-09-02T03:15:21.526-07:00Sometimes people are just bad listeners. What'...Sometimes people are just bad listeners. What's even worse is when you are airing an issue and your "friend" starts arguing the side of your antagonist. Blech!Julie Kwiatkowski Schulerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00292349838507731268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-7051489688341927822010-09-01T20:03:39.042-07:002010-09-01T20:03:39.042-07:00I hate it when people make me feel like a total mo...I hate it when people make me feel like a total moron.<br />I do love it though when people take me out for a taco. Morons or not. :)Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-27897021071784697322010-09-01T19:52:25.965-07:002010-09-01T19:52:25.965-07:00I can indentify with your frustration. Remember th...I can indentify with your frustration. Remember this, what you have to say is worthy of being heard. And regardless of who it is, there's no excuse for rudeness. Unless the person has been diagnosed as narcissistic, I blame it on the way people have been raised. People aren't taught manners anymore. I had a toxic friend who continually did this to me. I would make myself sick over being treated like I was inconsequential and finally did myself a favor and backed away from our friendship. I feel so much better too. Don't let people or worries like that take up free space in your mind. There's something to be said about good mental health!~AmesAmeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15074479473400202674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-5236731665435776352010-09-01T17:02:38.931-07:002010-09-01T17:02:38.931-07:00I was trying to thing of something clever and sass...I was trying to thing of something clever and sassy to say....and my mind went blank. Great post and an even better check for us as bloggers and comment-ers. I'm getting a red squiggly line for the word commenters. Tried it with an 'ors' too. Ah well. I'll leave it be and listen to Gordon Lightfoot. Bringing back memories....thanks for that!The Words Crafterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14520267901489487512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-35396143258783451312010-09-01T15:31:20.932-07:002010-09-01T15:31:20.932-07:00It's human nature, I think.
Thanks for the wel...It's human nature, I think.<br />Thanks for the well-written reminder, though - I think I can use it.Pondsidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407539138546412482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-60918007116615634332010-09-01T14:29:53.528-07:002010-09-01T14:29:53.528-07:00Girl, this is so true of what people do...I think ...Girl, this is so true of what people do...I think I used to but have tried not to anymore. So many people don't even listen to what you have to say...they are thinking what THEY are going to say next! All about ego...or maybe lack of..ain't for city galshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938751007704247232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-57505368173617977662010-09-01T14:21:25.174-07:002010-09-01T14:21:25.174-07:00Thanks for this post, gives me something else to t...Thanks for this post, gives me something else to try to improve on. I try not compare myself to anyone or their lives etc. but I am sure that I most probably have at times. <br /><br />You made me want a taco. LOL<br /><br />HugsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-72256100016871635072010-09-01T12:56:33.653-07:002010-09-01T12:56:33.653-07:00Hello Jenny.....I haven't been by in eons!!! ...Hello Jenny.....I haven't been by in eons!!! Forgive me for that.....as usual your post is worth pondering...and a good ponder it is ... I might add!! Hmmmm....I think the label for what your talk about is being self-absorbed. No one likes to admit they are....but I think at one time or another it afflicts all of us. If it didn't we would all be called JESUS....AND I DON'T BELIEVE IN THE WORLD TODAY THERE IS MUCH OF A CHANCE OF THAT HAPPENING.<br /><br />Great post!!!!<br /><br />Xo<br /><br />JoMy Grama's Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114089036939629527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-88699355876871052082010-09-01T12:31:36.891-07:002010-09-01T12:31:36.891-07:00Bless you heart. Seriously. So many people don'...Bless you heart. Seriously. So many people don't face their habits head-on. I know I could do better about not interrupting or making it about me. <br /><br />I love your kind heart.Nancy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313721217543578257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-44073761071729796312010-09-01T12:07:39.798-07:002010-09-01T12:07:39.798-07:00Oh, Jenny. You are too hard on yourself. I don&#...Oh, Jenny. You are too hard on yourself. I don't think you are a big one upper. But I do have to say, I hate when people leave comments that don't even acknowledge what your post was about, and just talk about them or their family because you reminded them of something. Grrr! Thankfully, because I have noticed how much I hate it when people do that to me, I try not to do it in any of my comments.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09670661525139676900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-35322457246623570822010-09-01T11:41:24.579-07:002010-09-01T11:41:24.579-07:00Oh. My. Gosh, Jenny...
I couldn't agree with...Oh. My. Gosh, Jenny... <br /><br />I couldn't agree with you more, here.... <br /><br />It has become one of my biggest pet peeves when someone has to turn every situation into something about themselves...<br /><br />I find it all the time on campus, and it's tiring... It makes me just want to curl up into my usual comfortable, reclusive form and give up on trying to make conversation or express myself. <br /><br />Sigh... <br /><br />I don't mind swapping war stories, but when the person begins with, "Oh, don't even talk to me about that..." and then proceeds to tell a "bigger" story I typically tune them out... It's called getting it off my chest... We all have things we need to vent about... Geez! <br /><br />Haha, okay, I'm done filling up your comment box. Hope your day is awesome!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07813478030682306062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-56574891166760949682010-09-01T11:41:19.373-07:002010-09-01T11:41:19.373-07:00Oh. My. Gosh, Jenny...
I couldn't agree with...Oh. My. Gosh, Jenny... <br /><br />I couldn't agree with you more, here.... <br /><br />It has become one of my biggest pet peeves when someone has to turn every situation into something about themselves...<br /><br />I find it all the time on campus, and it's tiring... It makes me just want to curl up into my usual comfortable, reclusive form and give up on trying to make conversation or express myself. <br /><br />Sigh... <br /><br />I don't mind swapping war stories, but when the person begins with, "Oh, don't even talk to me about that..." and then proceeds to tell a "bigger" story I typically tune them out... It's called getting it off my chest... We all have things we need to vent about... Geez! <br /><br />Haha, okay, I'm done filling up your comment box. Hope your day is awesome!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07813478030682306062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-8392409947135588202010-09-01T11:10:39.330-07:002010-09-01T11:10:39.330-07:00Me, Moi, Mine.... I can go for that. Oh I just tur...Me, Moi, Mine.... I can go for that. Oh I just turned it about myself....fredamanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445217103291725907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-79583152427660586132010-09-01T10:54:36.253-07:002010-09-01T10:54:36.253-07:00Yes! I agree, I've never like this...however y...Yes! I agree, I've never like this...however you really made me search my heart with this post. When you wrote about the surgery comparison it reminded me of a conversation I had with my husband last week. His back has been really sore and bothering him and he was sharing with me and I did the TABOO response that you talked about here! :( I told him that I understood because my back is always having problems, blah, blah, blah... I didn't realize I just did that unattractive, selfish and competitive conversation until you pointed it out today! I owe him a hug and apology. Thank you for this little lesson today Jenny. ((hugs))Moore Minuteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08762855036281651402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-24506109240009814972010-09-01T10:34:37.011-07:002010-09-01T10:34:37.011-07:00I've learned there is a fine line here. A very...I've learned there is a fine line here. A very fine line. Identifying with what another is saying or going through is one thing. One-upsmanship quite another.<br /><br />"I'm sorry you're having such a tough time with this. I remember what it was like when I went through this with my own child. Is there anything I can do to help?"<br /><br />"Oh I remember how hard it was when Jennifer had the same issues. I cried all day and night. I couldn't stop thinking about how I could help her. It was awful."<br /><br />See what I mean? Identification and reaching out vs. self-centered and taking the stage.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14843459906469325667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-79521884297538277262010-09-01T09:55:29.876-07:002010-09-01T09:55:29.876-07:00I like what June F. C. said about starting off wit...I like what June F. C. said about starting off with "Can I vent for a bit." I think that is a great way of putting it out there that the conversation or "venting" needs to be about you, for a bit. Sometimes it is just nice to have someone really LISTEN. <br /><br />I recognized this in myself several years ago when I saw a clip about the same thing somewhere -- I told my sisters about it, and now, when we feel like we are monopolizing or turning the conversation around to ourselves, we jokingly say "And now, lets get back to me."<br /><br />Sometimes a little humor goes a long way.Jessica Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00861658300112079021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-13219177148058687082010-09-01T09:25:16.780-07:002010-09-01T09:25:16.780-07:00Yeah, it's a fine balance between "I unde...Yeah, it's a fine balance between "I understand because I've been there" and "That's nothing, I've suffered more." A very delicate balance. And I think this is something we all need to be aware of, because it seems everyone does this at some point. And knowing the problem, perhaps it can be prevented. Just go ahead and rant, isn't that one of the purposes of blogging? {{hugs}}Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08925730745204736744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-69407300006205334152010-09-01T08:53:34.037-07:002010-09-01T08:53:34.037-07:00You should check out my c-section scar! LOL
The t...You should check out my c-section scar! LOL<br /><br />The thing getting on my nerves with some blog comments is that people either jump in to say what a great mom I am even though they have no clue if I'm actually a good mom! They will also jump in to comment on how bad another mom is! E.g., I just posted on how a mom dropped off her daughter and forgot to tell me not to give her sugar. It happens. She didn't get angry that I did. I thought I shared a funny story, but the majority of comments criticized the mom. I don't think that's entirely necessary.<br /><br />I LOVE getting comments. But I write a blog and people should get I do try to write for entertainment purposes (except for the occasional educational thread).Cheryl D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09325231488203008376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-9487169888289114192010-09-01T08:35:24.717-07:002010-09-01T08:35:24.717-07:00Where? Where are the scar pictures? I wanna see!...Where? Where are the scar pictures? I wanna see! :)Marlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14877001080913199818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-32481237906198618282010-09-01T08:19:32.072-07:002010-09-01T08:19:32.072-07:00Listen, my friend. You haven't even SEEN a hys...Listen, my friend. You haven't even SEEN a hysterectomy scar until you've clapped your eyes on mine.<br /><br />And that's the truth.<br /><br />;)Susan Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049586085703324088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-58321346723164074962010-09-01T07:57:04.856-07:002010-09-01T07:57:04.856-07:00Jenny great post! I try to share my life experien...Jenny great post! I try to share my life experiences but I never want to negate what someone is going through. I had a 'friend' who did that all the time. No matter what was going on with me, "My Dad just died" or "I stubbed my toe" she was always way sadder or more hurt or whatever. I stopped sharing with her because it was ALWAYS about her and well sometimes it just needed to be about me. You don't do that, you just share you life stories with us!!Linda @ A La Cartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16356471099319932835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-48229931577759723492010-09-01T07:51:15.891-07:002010-09-01T07:51:15.891-07:00I know for me I do that when I am feeling insecure...I know for me I do that when I am feeling insecure about myself or worse, kinda hate myself. So you do your very best to somehow build yourself up. Even to the detriment of friendships. Kinda ironic certainly not funny and what a viscous cycle. I'll show you how much worse I got it. Oh man, I just turned you off and now you think I'm a jerk. Dang I can't stand myself.....on and on it goes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05832134390402892339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-1543121036503547892010-09-01T07:07:06.015-07:002010-09-01T07:07:06.015-07:00If I feel a need to unload on someone who just ask...If I feel a need to unload on someone who just asks, "How are you?", I try to say, "Can I vent for a bit?" first. After MY cathartic release, then it's their turn - boy, I bet they hate that they asked me in the first place, huh?<br /><br />But yes, I've had that happen - I'm sure we all have. <br /><br />Ya know what bugs me more than that? It's when the other person vents about the SAME THING ALL THE TIME, and asks my advice - AND THEY NEVER TAKE THE ADVICE! Why the heck did they ask me?<br /><br /> I have started distancing myself from people like that; I begin resenting the time that I took to care in the first place.Kim Lehnhoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02516002280882854450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7688526164999265223.post-37657428391973110542010-09-01T07:04:24.119-07:002010-09-01T07:04:24.119-07:00I think it is such a fine line between offering in...I think it is such a fine line between offering information that might help someone and turning the conversation around to your own story. Sometimes I feel very guilty of that, when actually...I don't like the story being about me. I just worry that sometimes in my support it might come across that way. <br /><br />The real key is knowing when to listen. Listening to someone is truly a wonderful gift you can give to them.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03190096917851087676noreply@blogger.com